#9

Gender (optional): Female

Age (optional): 18

Problem/Issue/Question/Etc.: There’s this boy. Him and I liked each other a lot. So much that he would fall asleep on the phone with me, telling me the sweetest things I’ve ever heard.

Then the day came where he told me it wouldn’t work because we were too far away. And I wanted to cry. I wanted to just run to him and tell him things could work.
But I couldn’t. Things died down and he got over me after a long while and now we’re friends.

The problem is, I haven’t gotten over him. I miss him so much and I can’t help it.
He’s talking to other girls which I’m happy about but one of my friends likes him too. She doesn’t know that I miss him and she thinks we’re both over it.

I’ve contemplated somehow ruining it but I decided to be the bigger person and just let…them happen. If they do happen. But he does seem somewhat fond of her.

I just, I just want him back. I want to hear the sweet things he used to say to me. I want to know that he still thinks of me and that if things were different, he’d still want to be mine.
I just miss him so much.

First, I think it’s great that you two are both still friends.  It would help if I knew how far away you two lived from each other, but in general, long distance relationships can be difficult.  I was with somebody for nearly three years who lived about an hour away, and it was tough.  I know an hour drive isn’t too bad, since some relationships involve people who lives hundreds of miles apart, but it still made things difficult.   I’d like to know how long it’s been since he told you things wouldn’t work out.  If you still haven’t gotten over him, maybe it’s time to let him know exactly how you feel.  I understand that you don’t want to mess things up between him and another girl, especially your friend, and that shows a lot of maturity.  The fact is that you still have feelings for this guy, and I think he should at least know.  There’s always a chance for getting back together, and it helps that you are still young.  Maybe it won’t happen tomorrow, or next month or even next year, but you won’t ever know unless you tell him that you still have feelings for him.  Good luck with everything, and be happy that you’re still friends, that helps a lot if you ever did want to get back together.  Always remember that love has no boundaries.

-emotionalanesthesia