#9 continued

Gender (optional): Female

Age (optional): 18

Problem/Issue/Question/Etc.: He lives over 100 miles away. He’s in another state and its been about 3 to 4 months since he told me things couldn’t work.

I don’t know if I should tell him because I have a good feeling he’s over me.

Over 100 miles does make things difficult.  However, sometimes people seem like they over something, and when in reality they aren’t at all.   Was it difficult for him also, when he told you things wouldn’t work?   I know it took me close to a year to get over my last relationship, and the funny thing is that I now realize that we were completely wrong for each other.  There were times where I was happy and in love, but overall it was stressful and we just weren’t meant to be together forever.  I do however think we were meant to be with each other, just not forever.  I learned a lot during the relationship and even more afterward.  I learned a lot about myself, about others, and about life and love.  Unless one of you plans on moving closer to the other, I’m going to be honest and tell you that the chances of getting back together are slim, considering the distance involved.  But like I said earlier, maybe one day you’ll be closer to each other and things will be different.  I still think he should know that you miss him, and not just miss him as a friend, which I’m not sure if he does or not.  Did you two ever discuss college plans to maybe be closer?  Anyway, I’m sorry I can’t help you out more, but if you ever need to talk, just let me know!

-emotionalanesthesia